Let’s Talk About Se…Self Love!

I can’t sleep so that’s why I’ve posted more times tonight than I have in a year. Let’s talk about self love for a few minutes. It’s a hard task, I know I’ve said this before but right now I’m smack in the middle of it. Loving yourself is HARD.

It’s sooooo much more than face masks, bubble baths, and hair and nail appointments. It’s all the stuff in between too. When you have time to spare during the day and you think negatively about something, that’s where it comes in. When you wake up in the morning and automatically think “today won’t be a good day,” that’s when it comes in. When it’s your special moment and you are thinking about anyone else but yourself that is where it comes in.

Getting over a first love to better yourself and not seek revenge is excruciatingly difficult, it’s painful and it is most certainly nonlinear. There will probably relapses where you let them in, times when you only want to talk to them, and times when you even think you’ll be back together some day. Don’t do it! LOL

Love yourself by honoring the decision you made in the beginning to remove them from your life. Most of the time, if you made the decision yourself, and you loved  them as much as you did, then it was painful for you to do so. So something had to be seriously wrong, to make you think clearly enough to remove them from your life. This has been the most difficult for me. It’s been a year and some months and I’m still learning not to second guess my own decisions even though they had to be made.

People talk on social media about self love like there’s a quick fix. Like you only need a few months of it and then it all goes back to normal and you’re happy again. If you’re like me, that just won’t do.

Self love for me has been trying to rewire my brain and alter the way I think about being single, being without someone who was my best friend, and being okay with myself. Writing affirmations on sticky notes and posting them all around my room in case I need reminding that I’m amazing, and life goes on.

It’s sitting down to think about what I want to accomplish in life rather than what “he” is doing, and what I need to do to take control of my own life. My clothes have played a major role in this personal development and I’m quite proud!

It’s going out with the people that make me happy, and having good old wholesome fun. You can do all of this right from the beginning, but I don’t think it will really resonate with you until you make the conscious decision to change your ways.

It’s accepting that change is inevitable and not always good, and that whoever is supposed to be in your life at present, is. Timing is everything, I’ve seen this on multiple occasions and yet I still fought back so I could live in the past. I’m definitely still learning to deal with this bad habit but baby steps!

It’s telling yourself everyday “I love you,” in the mirror. It feels really corny and uncomfortable the first few times but you’ll start to really feel it after a while. It’s naming yourself 1st and foremost on the list of people you love whenever someone asks, and not feeling weird about it. Why not say you love yourself? Many people don’t so once you find it hold on tight.

It’s going on self dates!!!!!! They’re actually so much fun for me now, I go on walks around DC, I get myself ice cream, I dress cute for myself and not to impress anyone else. I go to the movies BY MYSELF! You read that right, me in the movies all by my lonesome and it’s so so fun. There’s no awkward arm around you, no one to talk to and interrupt the movie, which I really hate, and no one to eat all your candy. 

I’m pretty sure that’s the majority of what I’ve learned so far, my purpose is always to help those struggling with things I have struggled with. We’re in this together you guys lol don’t give up!

Being single is absolutely okay! It’s more fun than I’d like to admit and sure there are times when a girl feels lonely but they fade fairly quick because I have the best best friend ever, I also have my sister Shelbi and she makes life much easier.

~If you read down this far, Love Chelsi ❤

Locs locs locs !

I wrote previous post about my faux locs however, I’m here with a new and improved technique to achieve them in less time at any length you choose. First let me start by saying, I’m so much better at braiding now I can actually do a box braid, which was nearly impossible the year before. The braids are key to my faux loc success so bear with me.

These are my Cinderella Locs, the name felt girly and magical which is how they made me feel lol. locs20192Pretty sure no one else calls them this, so I’m a lone ranger here but that’s okay, I’ll trademark the name once I start doing them on other people.

See the curly ends? That’s why I chose Cinderella, they’re fancy, she’s fancy, I’m fancy!

Step 1: Braid the root of the hair you have sectioned off for the loc as tight as possible. Not too tight because we don’t want too much tension, but tight enough that nothing is sliding down. It makes for the best hold (I used to twist before I learned to do box braids) and they came loose so quickly it was pointless.. So braid everyone, braid!

It doesn’t quite matter if you braid all the way down or not, but try to go the length of the hair to prevent and actual locking while the style is in.

Step 2: Crochet 2 pieces or strands or Marley braid hair through the root of the braid. THEN begin wrapping the marley hair around the braid you just did and your life will be so much easier I swear! This step right here, saved me so much time…Maybe I just wrap slow in general, but crocheting the piece through before give it more stability, and more hold. No sliding!!! locs20193

Step 3: After you finish wrapping the length of the loc, make sure that you have excess marley hair hanging off to make the curlies on the ends. I’m not a big fan of the boho locs that use the really shiny pre curled hair on the tips, they look too uniform and fake. I like variety in my faux locs, and with this method, no two locs are the exact same.

Tie multiple (3-4) very tiny knots at the end of the braid, and then do the same with the marley hair too. The knots you tie with the marley hair, make sure they’re around the braid, or else this will all have been for nothing.

Step 4: Wrap the straight fluffy ends that you have leftover after tying the knots around flexi or perm rods. Dip in hot water, don’t burn yourself and there you have it.

My absolute favorite faux loc method that I have tried so far. Cinderella Locs for the win! I hope you all enjoyed this 🙂

~Love Chelsi ❤

Slicked, Slippery and Sleek! (lol the other 2 parts, which will now be one, I was supposed to write last year…)

Greetings all, I haven’t written in what feels like decades so time to tidy up and finish what I started, so I can tell you all about my 2018 and how 2019 should be a much better year.

hey 2019

The previous post was about how the magic of the ancestors flowed through me and I was able to slick my 4b/4c hair. Well tonight I’m here to tell you about all the different options that open up once you learn that your very thick, curly hair can in fact be sleek.

In all my trial and error, I did learn that too much product leads to a white flaky look and no one wants that at all. That sounds like a pretty obvious conclusion but I figured it out and that’s all that matters.

The High Pony 

One of my absolute favorite hairstyles of all time is the high ponytail. I feel like everyone can definitely rock it, as long as they don’t mind a headache or two… highpony2019-e1546741405243.jpg

This ponytail took me all day to prep but I really loved it. I mixed 1 pack of kanekalon braiding hair with a few strands of marley braiding hair to make it look more realistic.

Something about a high ponytail is just so regal and cute!

Also this adorable sea foam faux fur is from H&M and it is one of my favorite pieces.

The High Braided Pony 

This is a great alternative to the regular high ponytail because it there is more room to personalize it, with jewels, beads and string.

highbraid2019All I did here was braid down my jumbo ponytail, and then pull some to fluff it up a bit.

On the bottom I tied a black rubber band, wrapped the remaining hair around a flexi rod, and dipped in hot water for a sassy little curl at the end.

This style made me feel very high fashion, I’m not sure why but I may have enjoyed this more than the regular ponytail.

Overall I definitely recommend this as a quick cheap style if you don’t know what to do with your hair for a week or two.

Don’t tie your hair too tight, or you WILL get a headache and try to rip it off before you get back home…

~Love Chelsi ❤