A Few Hairstyles for Every Naturalista to Try cont…

Now I’m going to take you all on journey through almost all of my crochet braid hairstyles. In my experience crochet braids didn’t really become popular until I was in high school, mostly because I wasn’t exposed to anyone who wore them. Up until my sophomore year in high school, everyone I knew wore braids, twists, or weaves and my mom wouldn’t let me have one for the longest so I had to improvise.

There are tons and tons and TONS of videos on Youtube that explain in great detail, how to actually install crochet braids so I wont go too far into that. Basically you start with conrows and pull the extension hair through the braid, then you do a few loops and pull it taught against the scalp. I recently discovered that not all people do it that way but for beginners purpose, that’s how I did mine.

I really wanted weave because at the time it seemed so versatile, and I wanted long luscious hair that would stay straight, unlike my natural hair. Keep in mind that this is before I really came to love my natural hair, so these protective styles were for hiding as well.. Everyone black girl at school I knew had weave, whether it be long and straight or long and curly they had it and I wanted it! I had to figure a way around it so when I saw a Tumblr post about straight crochet braids I became obsessed. I went to the hair store, bought about 10 packs of jumbo extra long straight kanekalon hair and went to town! IMG_7416 As you can see I went a bit overboard and ended up looking like Cousin Itt. I had my sister install every single pack of hair and it was the biggest hair fail I’ve had to date. I wanted the blown out look and that’s exactly what I got, and more..a whole lot more. The next day at school I had girls coming at me left and right asking what kind of hair it was and touching it so see if it was read and how it got in there. Not to mention my non black friends who were astounded by the amount of weekend hair growth I had experienced lol.

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After that we shortened the hair quite a lot and I wore it for about two months but it was an atrocious sight compared to the beautiful work I do now. However I did get some cute pictures out of my epic fail.

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Next we have my crochet twists which I became a little two fond of and now I can’t stand them. This was my go-to style for about two years, of course other styles in between but I  FullSizeRender (1)always went back to these. They are by far the easiest and least time consuming of all crochet’s in my opinion and that is because you don’t have to take the time to pull and separate the hair. They come pre-twisted and are very full and fluffy. You can also by them in your desired length and size. As of now, I’ve only seen crochet senegalese twists, which are less coarse than marley twists but I am sure they’re on the horizon. Anyway. crochet twists became a favorite of mine because they gave me a sort of chunky 90’s box braid look, but with twists instead. If you are not the perfect braider, these are perfect for that jumbo long look. If you don’t like a lot of hair try a smaller size.

I know this is a lot of info but I am a strong believer in crochet braids being the absolute best protective styling, especially if you don’t enjoy wigs and weaves. There should be little to no tension on your own hair unless you are constantly yanking at it, plus they can be versatile and blend well with different textures of African American texture hair..without the insane cost you’d pay if you were buying kinky bundles. I’m not knocking weaves, but if you want to be cute on a budget, crochet braids are where it’s at.

Following my interest in the longer hair I did these using the Freetress Gogo Curl hair. They weren’t my favorite because the hair just kept slipping loose and I had to continuously tighten them at the root. They looked really big and shiny in the beginning too but the longer I wore them, the more natural the shine became. Another con with these was that the hair in the back became very knotty and i had to pull, yank and cut multiple hunks of the hair out but the overall look was nice. FullSizeRender

My method of installing crochet braids has never changed so really it’s all about the different hair you want, and the looks you want to achieve. In the beginning I was all about length and now I find myself gravitating towards volume. Big hair be having you like

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The first time I did the big hair, I had the nerve to do it big and bright red too! Well mostly black but there were highlights which I still don’t know if I like them or not. Everyone else seemed to though so I guess that’s nice. This was my first attempt at curling marley hair with hot water, and it was the best job my sister and I have done. I have tried to replicate and failed miserably…

FullSizeRender (1)  I kinda hated these when we first finished I was like, “Chels what were you thinking?” I still don’t know what I was thinking, but the bounce that those curls had, GURLLLLLL you couldn’t tell me anything. I’ve never enjoyed walking around so much in my life. These didn’t give me any trouble, and I even got to pull them up into a puff like up-do when I felt like it.

This next style is almost identical to the one I just showed you but this one is like my favorite EVER. I used pre-curled Jamaican Bounce hair, I forget the brand but if you search it, you’ll see. It was so so so soft and bouncy and full. This was the first hair I ever wore in a middle part and I felt fantastic. I usually don’t do middle parts but this hair honestly looked its best that way.

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See its super cute, and I glowed lol. This hair gave me so much life, even strangers in DC liked this hair as much as I did.

Anyway, I hope this post gave some insight to crochet braid styles if you didn’t already have some. It’s probably my favorite way to style my hair, although I do get tired of it from time to time my hair grows the fastest when cornrowed and tucked away neatly from the harshness of the environment, and my own fingers. Don’t be afraid to try the big hair guys seriously, its life changing, confidence boosting, and fly too.

Love,

Chelsi

 

 

 

A Few Styles for EVERY Naturalista to Try

Hey guys! So today I’m feeling better and I’m going let you guys in on a few hairstyles that you should try if you are currently natural or transitioning. Keep in mind that not all of these styles are extremely easy and will take up a good chunk of your time. So it’s probably best to carve out a weekend to do them.

Faux Locs (also known as silky locs, loc extensions, bohemian locs, goddess locs, etc. )

IMG_7131This is a picture of the back of the regular faux locs I did on myself while I was at school. As you can see, they were lower back length and very full. Installing these took my about 2-3 days and each day felt like it was about 45 years long. I thought I’d never finish my hair then have to miss class, then fail out… Lol yes it got that real.

I did my research on Youtube of course, watching tutorials on the different ways to install them in order to achieve my desired length and fullness. I fell in LOVE with one video in particular, if I can find it again I’ll leave a link. The girls hair was so full with great length that just flowed so freely I had to try them for myself. The video was a favorite of mine because of the method she used. Instead on braiding underneath (which I cannot do) she began with twists and that made it 1000000000 times easier and faster for me. I ended up buying 9 packs of kanekalon hair because my head is big and I like a lot of hair anyway, in addition to 6 or 7 packs of marley braiding hair for the wrapping. I wanted my locs to look a bit more realistic and to have less of a silky look.

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After the process was done I was really pleased with myself, because I don’t know many people who can do faux locs on themselves. I know even less people who pronounce the word “faux” correctly but I digress… I kept these in my head for about a month and a half to two months, mostly because I was afraid my hair would dry out and break off during the take down but it didn’t! If you are going to do these, you ABSOLUTELY MUST moisturize your hair with whatever you choose but do not skip this step. If you do, you better hope your hair doesn’t fall out and blow away like tumble weave.

I hope you enjoyed this snippet about my experience with faux locs done a different way than usual. Black hair is so so magical, we can literally do just about everything with our hair and it will flourish. Not to mention the envy we face from other…never mind that’s a discussion for another time.

Love,

Chelsi

 

 

Ticking…

I’d like to speak briefly with Time himself and ask why he was always lost.
He was always off or there wasn’t enough of him to go round.
He gave me just enough of himself to build up hopes and let down a wall only to run away like a thief in the night, not making a sound.
I wouldn’t say I wasted him, although that was the initial feeling.
Never took him for granted because I didn’t know what he was stealing.
Years down the road I guess time ran out of breath and quit on us.
He left without warning, just hopped on a bus.
Time stole something from me and I’d like to have it back.
Time is still on that bus holding it, watching it crack.
He’s riding off into the darkness and now I have to follow.
But time never told me about our little trip into the shadows…
I can only hope I catch up with Time,
To take back what’s mine,
To stop pretending I’m fine,
To undo his lie.
Time has been quite slippery,
quite sneaky,
quite slick.
It’s a wonder someone hasn’t hit Time with a brick.
Stopped him so we could hold on to the moments that matter most.
Time has something of mine and I’d like it back….

A Black Woman’s Magic

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The reason I wrote the previous post was in hopes that it may reach anyone else that is in a similar positions as myself. Going through break-ups from romantic relationships or even friendships can be hard enough to get through alone, and it’s nice to know that you are not alone. Being that this is my first real heart break, I didn’t know whether to feel stupid, sad, alone, angry, hurt or all of the above. Feeling like you are the only one going through despite what everyone tells you is a terrible feeling to have. So I write this for anyone who has any of those feelings I described to you earlier. I have a vision and a dream that this blog will become a place for black girls and women first and foremost, to come and gain knowledge and wisdom that the women in my life are passing down to me. Throughout the last six months I don’t think anyone has helped me more than my mother, my sister, and my best friends from home and at school. They are all strong black women who I am blessed to have in my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I am a very stubborn person, and these lovely ladies have observed the situations and let me make my own graceless mistakes, but they have wrapped me in their love and surrounded me with the love of ten thousand villages. They have kept me strong through it all, and quite grounded. No one deserves to feel alone in any situation, so this one’s for the little black girls inside all of us black women.
img_0318 Haha memories! My best friends from home.
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I hope you all enjoyed this.
~Chelsi

My plans vs God’s plans

 I know I haven’t blogged or written anything in a very long time, but recent events in my life have inspired me to do so.
At this point in my life, I am no longer in a relationship and I have less friendships than I thought I would too. I’ve had to learn, the hard way, that when people want to walk out of your life, they will do either one of two things. Thee first option being that they’ll literally walk out on you no matter how hard you fight, no matter how much love you poor into the situation. The second option is that they’l show you in their own actions that you clearly are not meant to be in their lives, either at this particular point in time or forever. Whichever option they choose, they always end up showing you and you have to learn when to fight and when to let go. The trouble is, when the bond you have with a person is so deep and so strong, you don’t think of the possibility of letting any of them go. The thought never crosses your mind. Like once your heart is all the way in it, your brain has absolutely no chance at convincing you that forever doesn’t last too long.
     It’s ironic actually, “Forever Don’t Last” is the name of a song by Jazmine Sullivan. A song that I had earlier refused to listen to, because I thought it was sad, and I was also under the silly notion that forever indeed meant forever. The truth is that we don’t know how long forever really is, only God does. He can make forever be as long as he wants them in your life, or as long as you need them in your life. He can make forever actually forever, or he can make it those 10 minutes that felt as if they were forever. In the song, Sullivan sings “Lord knows I gave I my all and/ I couldn’t save us from falling/ Cause some people ain’t meant to be together forever forever” and it’s a lesson I have to learn. Everyone keeps telling me that these are lessons I have to learn in life weather I like it or not, but it still feels unreal. Once you really love someone you expect them to love you back the same way, if not more! Not everyone is like that though, and it is a valuable lesson to learn once you are willing to accept it.
     The stress of these lessons being thrown at me back to back has proven to be quite a lot. I’ve felt broken, empty and many other things I dislike. Being a happy person most of the time, it really weighs heavy on my heart when it takes long periods of time to get back to the happiness I already have inside. I guess you begin relying on other people for your happiness when you get close enough to them. Losing yourself along the way is a dangerous thing, especially when the forever isn’t actually forever and you have to go back and find that strong person you were before all of these people. This is where God’s plan comes into play. I have tried and tried to make such bonds last for strenuous amounts of time just because I thought I needed them, and because I wanted them to last. However, it seems as though God has another plan for me, and He is obviously removing these people from my life for reasons that I am unaware of. There hasn’t been one year where my faith has been challenged so often except this one. In 2016 I have never been so surprised in my entire life. Maybe God has better things waiting for me, maybe he’s preparing better people for me, and me for them. Maybe my “forever” wasn’t meant to be forever just yet but the faith I now have is unbelievable. Finally starting to accept things for the way they are rather than my hopes of what they will be or what they could’ve been is a beautiful thing. Some days it’s harder than others, and some days it’s like nothing has happened at all. I guess that’s just part of the journey to becoming the best version of myself, the version God knows I will be if I just let go and have faith.
~ Chelsi

Ladies Get In Formation…

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Have y’all heard Beyonce’s new song Formation?! Better yet, have you seen the music video??!!! It’s simply the most amazing video I feel she has ever released. The lyrics, the setting, the carefree message that it sent out was inspiring. You wil rarely hear a modern day artist state that they are unapologetically  black in such blunt terms. Singing that she likes her “baby hair with baby hair and afros”  or  her “negro nose with Jackson 5 nostrils” is something alot of artists today wouldn’t risk puting in their music. She also completely shut down all the people criticizing Blue for having “nappy” hair, like any mother would if the public had the nerve to sign a petition for her to change her childs hair.. However not only did Bey kill this song but seeing her perform it at the superbowl was ICONIC.
 
In my opinion she stole the show from Bruno Mars and Coldplay and the game too. It was more like a Beyonce concert where the players and the other performers opened up for her. Anyway, above we have the usual female backup dancers which promotes her
constant theme of girls running the world. To see so many women move in unison to such a powerful song is HISTORY. Not only did the song pay tribute to black people everywhere, and but it silenced everyone who ever thought Bey was not proud of her blackness. The backlash she is receiving from so many news outlets and public figures for saying “negro” on television is quite ironic becaus these were the same people who were in love with Beyonce a few days ago before the Superbowl. I’ve seen quotes from numerous people about why she brought race into the superbowl, or why she said negro on TV, or why her dancers where dressed in such costumes, which brings me to my next point.
As you can see in the above image, Beyonce’s backup dancers were dressed as members of the Black Panther Party. Its such a bold move for her or anyone for that matter and I am loving every bit of it. From the Black beret’s, to the beautiful natural afro’s, to the Black leather outfits, and lastly to the Black Dr. Martin boots, the dancers made a tremendous statement for everyone to see.This modern day show of Black pride was so much fun to witness and it just goes on to let America know that WE will not be silenced, We see what is happening to Our People and We will continue to fight back in all ways that We deem necessary!
 
 In addition to all the greatness that Bey has bestowed upon us, she also honors Michael Jackson by recreating the look that he wore when he performed at the Superbowl in 1993. She never ceases to amaze me, and I’ve been a fan of her ever since I can remember. I could go on and on about how she’s an amazing person as well as an amazing singer and performer but that might take weeks. So don’t forget to subscribe and I hope you all enjoyed this!

Camel Sweaters and Sunny Days

Hey loves! I know I haven’t posted a lot since I started this blog but I am getting the hang of it now. I am not quite sure what path I want it to take, but I think it will find it’s way the more I post. Anyway, I think the past week and a half of school have been the hardest weeks yet. The “Snowpocalypse” or “Snowmageddon” as my fellow Bison call it, has become a mini winter break. As a younger child and even a high schooler, I could not wait to get out of school early and have snowday after snowday but it’s different now. Its so hard to get into the swing of things  after you’ve only had one class within five or six days but I’ll survive. Next week will probably be the hardest because there will most likely be a full week of classes so no more breaks! But I love the environment I am able to learn in and I love my HBCU so no hard feelings.
As you all can see I had apretty relaxing week and a half without classes. The day that I actually had to leave my room was very productive and I enjoyed myself. I woke up, sturggled to get dressed for about two hours and then finally came out wit a finished product. The image, or rather images below are of the outfit I wore that day and I am excited to share it with you all. I am wearing a camel or tan colored sleeveless sweater from Forever 21, a simple black crop top underneath, along with black jeans from H&M and black booties by Steve Madden. This is one of my favorite outfits that I have created since the new year has commenced because I felt good while I was wearing it. The booties are so comfortable most days so it’s like I’m not even wearing heels. I am in LOVE with this sweater because I can wear it in so many different ways which I cannot wait to share in the future but for now, here is my first look.

blog 2 “Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.”
― Coco Chanel